#667 – Dating Coach D’Avella/
- April 7, 2020
Matt D’Avella joins us to chat about what’s been happening recently in LA, how he’s keeping his biceps big in isolation, relationships, working from home and Matt’s dating advice.
On today’s episode of The Daily Talk Show, we discuss:
– What LA is like at the moment
– Talking about what’s going on
– Personal finances
– Matt’s cancelled wedding in Italy
– Working from home and adjusting to the new norm
– Team and collaboration
– Relationships in isolation
– The Two Day Rule
– Hair cuts
– Dating
Matt’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ24N4O0bP7LGLBDvye7oCA
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It's the daily Talk Show episode. 667
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Matt D Avella. Welcome back to the show, brother.
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It's good to be here. Thank you so much. All right. What's it What's that jumpy got on? That looks familiar? Yeah.
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Yeah. Represent
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la talking to a baby. It's like the I only got two hoodies. That's one of them.
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I mean, we were worried in the car when we gave it to you when we were in LA last year, we drove home we thought surely that's going to been seeing is is a minimalist, or is at least giving it away to, you know, the salvos. I
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like you guys that much that I held on to it because of the guilt.
0:44
That's present. And when you have a child, you just end up having so much shit because you don't want to throw it out. You feel guilty because people have dropped their hard earned cash. But my you're in LA How are you? What's the vibe in Los Angeles?
0:58
feel pretty good. I mean, it's been weird. It's obviously it's a very strange time. definitely getting used to living at home and only getting outside for a walk around the neighbourhood once a day, we went to the grocery store for the first time in three weeks. And it was, yeah, it was it was much different than the last time that I went because like the last time I went, it was right before the lockdown and all the craziness happened. People weren't social distancing yet. And, you know, everybody was wearing a mask today, they had kind of a system for getting in line and making sure nobody was next to each other. Still, people weren't really taking it. Like I would say there's probably about 15% of people 10% of people that weren't taking it seriously at all, and like breathing down your neck in line. But for the most part, I'm seeing most people take it seriously.
1:48
Talking about guilt. What do you see as a bit of a fun one, what are you guilty about at the moment?
1:54
What am I guilty about? I'm a lot of video games. A lot Lately I don't know if I feel guilty about it though I'm just letting myself go and I'm enjoying it. A lot of snacks that are just kind of getting me through this right now. And you know, playing Call of Duty Warzone literally probably two hours a day which is a lot for me. And, you know, I just just enjoy in life man.
2:19
Well the backbone of your YouTube channel is your biceps and how they hold the up can we get an official statement from that day Villa's biceps, you know, in this time?
2:30
It was in the first two weeks it was a struggle. And actually then I started to get nervous because I'm like, okay, gyms officially clothes can't go to the gym. And then you start to think like, you know, there's not many at home bicep workouts, right? So I had to think what can I do in exchange of that? And so it's like I'm trying to lift chairs and benches around my house and heavy objects. It didn't work as well. I ended up just getting a resistance band ordered and I just got it in. So that's that's been doing the job. I'm actually impressed. So these resistant pants,
3:01
what is all this stuff mean to YouTubers and like revenue and things like that?
3:07
I think it's too early to tell in terms of revenue, whether it will make a significant significant difference. I haven't seen with, you know, people who sponsored channels I haven't seen that slowed down much. And obviously, there's some brands were that are all online and all digital where it would make sense to just continue to do the same thing, if not a little bit more. I have heard from some brands who are like, Hey, we really want to do something positive at this time to help and give back and do something. shed a little bit of light on a bad situation. How can we do good, and I have actually just personally found it a weird and difficult thing to kind of navigate and I don't love talking about it. I'm talking about my personal experience, but then everybody's going through this so you're kind of caught between this place of you want to talk about it. Because if you don't, it's weird. It's really strange if you don't
4:03
challenge straight for you, is that the problem?
4:06
Well, you know what I think what I saw that as mainstream as much as like, I really value originality, and like, you know, to do something specifically about it is it's not going to be very original. So I tried to like figure out a way that I could maybe help people talk about my own anxieties, the stress that I've gone through some of the things that I'm doing to organise my daily routines and habits. And like, do you kind of feel selfish talking about it as well? Because you're like, what the hell do my habits mean? Like, people are going through some serious shit right now. But at the same time, it's like if we take care of ourselves, then we're going to be able to be there for our family and friends. And you know, obviously it's affecting a lot of people but and I don't like talking about serious stuff either. I know you guys don't love talking about serious shit.
4:51
We've actually since you've been on the show, we're a completely serious show. We cover serious topics in a serious
4:57
Okay, that's good. Yeah, I'm Well I'm here
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for it mate of mine just posted it come
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from by the way is this a? We was here for like
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I'm here for it I don't know that it's Is it an American term and
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we've just called to read
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something it's but we went where's the reference? We're trying to work out? Because it is
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kinda I thought I mentioned it I thought I was being original super high I can't keep this hoodie on
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I mean just to see me you guys might you guys might if I
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take it off sexual music here we go Dave Ella's doing a live stream shot for us I can play some drums here we here we go. This is the first dance oh
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can you do the spritz against
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smoke in the back of the stage?
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Yeah I got I got it out of you can see it there's two minutes on a picture get some really make it out. You know what's been done. I'm I think it's enough the smoke alarms gonna go off.
6:02
How you guys doing haircuts?
6:04
I luckily got one a couple of weeks ago. And so I'm writing it out. saves your hair is looking alright Josh? Yeah, I got one right before.
6:13
Mine's a nightmare. My hair's always been a nightmare. businesses that are already in trouble, like I was my head was
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the villa friend of mine posted something around. Financial buffer is not a luxury, it's a necessity. And you know, you've talked a lot about your personal finances from your student debt and, you know, different time of your life that you're in now, as he wipes the smoke out of his face. For something like this, how, you know, you've had some roommates say it on your podcast and awesome financial heads that you've surely taken some knowledge for where does it sit in terms of a time like this way, she has to just completely stop for a lot of us and financial buffer. What is it? What does that all mean? You and finances in this time, how much of the focus is that? For you?
7:04
Yeah, I Well, I hope it's a it's a wake up call for a lot of people to take their personal finances seriously and also not to be reliant on anybody else but themselves. And I think a lot of people bank on Social Security or the government to take care of them once they retire. And we need to make sure that we're taking care of ourselves right now. Because there's always going to be something that's unexpected that comes up, whether it's your car breaking down, or losing a job or anything like that. I think that I've personally found myself a little bit more conservative because I've been a freelancer for the past eight to 10 years and that's a very uncertain future, or at least the uncertainty is more in your face than a full time job. Obviously, there's so many people today, regardless of their the field or their career that are now facing real hardships and So none of us really ever can be 100% certain in our job security, we can be certain of our financial savings of how much runway we have at a time like this. I personally, it depends on how much risk you're willing to take as well. So I personally, again, being a little bit more conservative financially, I don't want to take a whole lot of risks with finances. So, you know, when I'm when I made the transition from freelancing to full time, YouTube, I wanted a year of bills and expenses. So making sure I could pay rent for an entire year, make sure I had bills covered, just in case I wasn't able to make money for an entire year, which ended up happening. And so
8:44
the original Doomsday prepper Matt D. Avella?
8:47
Yeah, yeah, I mean, yeah, it's funny though. In Los Angeles, people naturally prepare for these kind of things for earthquakes, and everybody is advised to have like an an earthquake kit to make sure you have enough water and food to live. You a couple of weeks. And I've Yeah, like from like a minimalist perspective to like I don't want to just have shelves and shelves filled with shit. I don't want to hoard like crazy. So like even during this time and we knew that we were likely going to be at home for four weeks or more. We tried to be super intentional with the things that we had. Luckily, we had been, you know, financially, we're, we don't spend extravagantly. We save a lot of our money. Most of my expenses are caught up in my business with employees that I pay. But right now, in terms of personal assets, we're super conservative.
9:34
What did you buy the shops to today?
9:38
Okay, so today was more of like a snack run and essential run, but I mean, like,
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you know, we got to a point where would you go?
9:47
Yeah, yeah, yeah, we went to TJ is. You guys don't have TJ Do you know, we don't know. Yeah, so I ended up getting we got like two things a peanut butter, we got a bunch of like fresh fruit and veggies, clementines. Mandarin's to last us for a couple weeks bananas. And then some snacks some pink and white cookies. really really good. Got some ice cream. What a pink I got
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like a certain brand
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yoghurt frosted cookies small Yeah, yeah, I don't know. Trader Joe's brand
10:22
and how much marijuana did you pick out because that sounds like munchie food right there
10:27
I can't talk about that publicly but I let's just say I was sucked up before this all started
10:36
like it's legal here guys, but I don't I don't smoke a lot but I did order like on they have like these online services and so like six months ago, I did order a little bit. And it's been nice, you know, on the weekend just relaxing. Having some whiskey by the way. I just wanted to let people know that currently in Los Angeles at 630. So that's why
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Yeah,
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roll He asks in the comments, just tuned in what's with the smoke? Are you back to understand
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what's going on? is burning down?
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Or if you've just listened, he's just like Litmus spliff, he's pulling in a lot.
11:12
Hey, yeah, that's true.
11:14
That's a bad explanation, your wedding? Obviously, things change with that. When did you realise that shift was bringing that up? It's a bit of a fun one. Yeah. And I said, what was the what was the process in accepting the fact that the wedding in Italy wasn't going to happen?
11:33
Yeah, it was when Natalie told me she didn't love me anymore. And so from that moment, I was like this probably I might be able to pull it off.
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Like my head now, what should from the start, you know?
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Yeah, it just highlighted the inadequacies that were already there. And so no it so I think actually, like, compared to most people, at least in the States. I think, Matt and I were so tuned in Because, you know, a hit Italy, one of the first places that it hit outside of China was Italy. And it, you know, quickly got out of hand. And so we're just paying attention and trying to make sure we're making the best decision starting to hear a little bit from our wedding guests saying, Hey, you know what's going on with the wedding? Are you guys still planning on going through with it? And then we were giving that we basically created a wedding newsletter that we would send out every week, it started to be every couple of days. So we sent out about three or four emails. Did you sigelei thing did you
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just set it all up to really get into MailChimp,
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two different groups. We've segmented it down a little bit. So people who are interested in the wedding people who want to know just about the happy hour, but it worked out pretty well. We know it's, it was one of those things where we were going to wait until like April until right around now to make a decision because that's when at the time that the I guess the stay at home orders for Italy were going to be lifted. And then the more we looked at it, the more we realised that this wasn't just an Italy problem. This was a world problem. And then when the travel restrictions started getting in place for international travel going to Europe, it was one of those things where the decision really was made for us. And I think in the beginning, I was a little bit upset. I mean, before all this was happening, I was upset because it's, you spent so much time and energy planning these things, and looking forward to it. And you had this idea in your mind and now are like, well, we're going to get married this year. And then when we come back from the wedding, we'll get a dog and then you know, talking about kids in the future, and then you're like, Okay, now everything's just getting pushed back. Because NATS said she's definitely not gonna be pregnant at the wedding. She's like, it's not one of those weddings. And then, but then you're upset about it for a little bit. And then the NBA gets postponed and you're like, is that really a big deal? Is it?
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Yeah, I'm breaking I mean, so forming like the new normal for people is been really challenging. But once I think people get in this groove of the new norm, I think it's gonna be really hard to go back the other way. I was thinking about you, Josh, like, the time that we need you out doing a shoot. I don't know if you're gonna want to lay the half, I think you're getting really comfy. And I think a lot of people are probably gonna get really comfy in this, you know, staying inside, what do you think about for the when we're needing to then re adjust back to another norm? How's it been for you in this adjustment period?
14:25
Yeah, tell me I heard you talking about that on a podcast recently how you were just saying how you like working from home and how you can get to work even quicker and it helps you to spend time with your family and kind of the back and forth. And I was reminded when I started working from home the same thing that I actually really do value working from home, and it allows me to quicker access to the kitchen to eat healthier foods, and I can get to work a lot quicker. I can do things like when it comes to video editing, I can compress a video overnight when like you have an office. It's kind of a pain in the butt to even set all that up and And make sure you're doing that, like you can transfer files overnight and not worry about, like, you know, I want to say at the office of seven o'clock sometimes there's like a lot of lag time in between doing these processes for video editing. So that's been nice, I think, yeah, I think it's going to be an adjustment for sure. I mean, even when we went out today, it's like going outside going out into public just feels weird. And if it felt wrong, it was like, you know, you You almost become a hermit, just by the circumstances. Like, it's like when you there's I think some like, behavioural study done where if you display a certain emotion, then you'll start to feel that emotion if like, you express pure joy with how you react with your face, then you'll start to feel joy. And now I started to feel like a hermit and I'm like, I don't want to go outside. I don't want to do anything. And I think it's gonna be a real adjustment. But you know, from everything I've seen, it seems like it right now is the hardest restrictions, and then it'll ease up and then we'll see if we have to come back to them again. But like I don't think it's just gonna be like, open door. Let's go Okay, back to normal. I think it's gonna take a while before we get to that point. Are you finding it hard to switch off like, cuz you can work as much as you want or you can do those evenings. How are you separating things? I think I've done surprisingly well. Again, video games has actually been like a helpful buffer. Because my what do you what are you rocking? Yeah, so we're playing war zone, which is Call of Duty, which is basically a huge map where you have about 50 teams playing 150 people, teams of three. So me and my two brothers. We've been playing almost every night at 630 actually, which is right now.
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So I actually got to go.
16:44
Maybe we could just bring that in. And then you could do could you start a twitch channel? I mean, you're already tick talking. I feel like you You are transitioning to the modern day, create content.
16:56
I had a hard enough time setting up this shitty video that I've got for you guys. Right now, I don't know if I'm capable. I don't know for like, I'm good at a few things right like I think I'm pretty good at filmmaking but for whatever reason like doing like live video chatting, I'm just terrible at
17:13
how have you had to rethink ambition within your business within YouTube personal life?
17:22
Well, a week from I guess a week ago from today, I hired another employ a second editor and filmmaker Tyga shout out to Tyga. He's a great kid, great editor, like really passionate filmmaker, and he was going to primarily be doing a lot of in person stuff, a lot of photography and filmmaking and doing behind the scenes footage for Patreon. And then obviously, this whole thing happened. And now we're just kind of adapting and trying to figure out how to work remotely, how to make sure I mean, I'm the one that's like, shooting in writing and taking all the photos and video all this original content for them to Edit. So we had to like just restructure and set up systems to be able to, for me to like, pass the footage along to them. So like just leaving hard drives outside of my apartment and having them come by and pick it up. Things like that have helped. And then I think in terms of staying focused, and I think I've always naturally had an ambition towards what I do. So the fact that I'm just really passionate about what I do naturally motivates me and like I haven't found a decrease in ambition. I think that just it's been more so like the team and collaboration figuring out how to do that has been the biggest learning lesson over the past couple weeks.
18:40
Has there been a big perspective shift like what you were planning to do in January and like you, I know that you had a big, big plans in regards to education and all that sort of stuff. Those plans staying the same or have you shifted,
18:56
shifted a little bit but courses are still I think, going to be a big thing. Part of this year, I think by the end of the year, I want to develop three courses. The one thing that I've actually been working on over the past couple of weeks, I shifted, I have been working on a habits course. But I wasn't feeling as inspired to write it over the past two weeks. So especially with like being locked down and everything and even making content around that already, it felt a little bit draining. So I started to develop more like YouTube creative, I talked about creativity and YouTube and how to get started on YouTube. And so I think that's gonna probably be the first course that we even come out with, just because I've, it's just like a muscle and a topic that I haven't covered in such a long time. And it's something that was like just so effortless for me to write about and talk about because I've been living it for the past three years. So I'm hoping that like that hasn't changed. And I think if anything, in the long run, this will probably make me more productive being at home. But like I said earlier, there are its own there. are challenges inherent to working from home and now like my team's all at remote, so it's much more difficult to collaborate on the projects we're working on.
20:11
We've been talking a bit about just feel like how you feel about a piece of content that you've created. And as a creator, there's so much emotion involved. It doesn't always have to be but I think a lot of creative sort of lean into that and they feel great about it. Are they feeling negative about it for you, and the content you've been putting out? specific time to now and the sort of stage you're at? How do you feel about the stuff you're putting out into the world?
20:41
I feel pretty good. Pretty good. I think I usually look back like a year ago and like, oh, like that thing suck. Like, especially two years ago, like I can't believe I made that video or, and like now that I'm working on a course about YouTube. I've been revisiting a lot of the early stuff. stuff I made for YouTube. And just it's kind of shocking, like how different your approach becomes creatively, even though that thing that you originally did worked in some form or another, and I think that was like, the biggest learning lesson for me early on was just experimentation, trying different things and like not getting locked into the same exact thing over and over again, and just trying different approaches. I think that's what helped me the most and probably the one thing that's underestimated, because like, yes, everybody needs to work hard. Yes, you need to be persistent over a long period of time, but then experimenting and trying different things has been, I think the root of what's helped me the most and also, that's what helped me to enjoy and look more fondly at the stuff that I've recently made. I think over the past couple weeks, I've had to adapt actually had three videos shot and edited that were done and ready to go up on YouTube. And they just didn't seem relevant. And I felt like it would be weird, especially considering how rapidly things are moving and how much we learn every day that if Wasn't to talk about this or provide some kind of support for my audience talk about you know how to get through uncertainty and uncertain times, then I'd be doing them a disservice. So I decided to pause them and then just address these things and secret handshake video is not no longer going out. Ah, the secret the secret handshake
22:30
was a karate this very funny. There was a funny joke now I
22:34
didn't exactly get it. Well, I didn't get it.
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Maybe my patreon doesn't do the job too. I just kept Patreon I got a whiskey.
22:46
He didn't explain the joke for me because it was
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very funny. It's because because it's not relevant anymore. Yeah, Dave. You were not hand shaking it. You still hand shaking people.
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By the way, he confused me because I have a secret podcast and that's why
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related to diet I was trying to be used
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to it was very smart joke, but it just kind of sparked
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the internal critic for yourself, I guess that's what I was kind of getting at like, what you think about something versus what your audience think about something? What is the dance for you, when you're experiencing the internal critic? negative or positive? How much white Do you give that internal critic?
23:29
It's always there. I like to think about what my audience would say. And like, What might the top comment look like? If like, say if a video did poorly or I just like botched something like what would cause there to be negative feedback or somebody being like, that's wrong, or bla bla bla, and then, you know, a lot of people might say, Don't look at feedback, don't pay attention to haters or whatever. But I think like you should be listening to people and if people are Saying that maybe you're doing something that isn't helpful, is it valuable, then it's worth addressing. And so I think it also helps me to make better videos because I'm able to kind of, I'm trying to provide value in, you know, help people in some way or another. And if they get caught up on one thing that I said, without me clarifying it, it may not help them in the end. So I try to maybe like, get at the critics as well, or like, at least like the critical voice that we all have in our own head. Because I don't think it's just like, I'm not trying to please people who are just going to be haters and trolls, but I'm trying to make sure that I'm kind of keeping in mind, my audience and how they're going to interpret something and kind of like clarifying things that need to be made clear.
24:54
Any YouTubers that you're enjoying watching at the moment
25:00
I have I've always like, liked the filmmaking YouTubers. Matty H is a really good kid. He does a lot of great videos, and he's been doing some vlogs lately. I've been watching Sarah deechi. She's been because she lives in New York. And actually, like, I mean, I lived in New York just a few years ago. And so we kind of think about, like, what our situation would be like now being if we still lived in Brooklyn, or if it happened back then. And it just seems really difficult. And so she kind of was talking through her experience things that were going out or on during that time, Jordan ziarat, he's a fitness youtuber and Instagram fitness coach. And so I've been kind of kind of just following those people that are relevant and pop up but I've still been consuming like news and stuff and just not as much as I originally was. And you know, because it is it is comforting in some way to at least be informed everyone I
26:00
never knew so many people did exercise until something like this happens. And then everybody online. I mean, Josh and I were skipping on a live stream and dancing today. And amazing project people were even watching it. I think, like two weeks ago, I think some of the people who were slightly off within their content was people talking about the opportunity, opportunity, opportunity opportunity, as much as I like to lock in opportunities. I think it's like it was just a little early when you're trying to it's not even it's not even someone trying to see the silver lining in a shit situation. It's like, where can i capitalise for my business? Where have you Where is opportunity? So within your mindset at the moment?
26:46
You know, I yeah, I totally hear you. I saw like a post early on from somebody that was saying there's a big difference between selling now and profiting off of These times and like it's like the people that are hoarding in 95 masks and selling them at a crazy high markup. And like, there's a fine line between the two because there are people online who need to sell because they have small businesses, employees and they need to support a lot of people have to lay people off now, so I don't I don't see anything wrong with selling right now. I you know, I'd be lying if I didn't say that. I would feel weird to promote Patreon at a time like this, even though I've mentioned it, I think five times since we started talking. But I'm like, I'm not going to mention it in my videos, and I'm not gonna Hey, guys, if you go support, like, just obviously, like, I think for this month, I'm like, I'll be fine. I don't need to promote it. And so everybody has their own line. And it really depends on your bottom line and whether it means the difference of letting an employee go or not. And if it means that you're gonna let an employee go, I think Yeah, like sell your shit. So your products, make sure that you keep your business going, because not everybody can do that right now. But profiting off of it is another thing and it's like, dude, we get these emails like every day now it's like we are committed to helping you through this coronavirus pandemic, by the way if you want 1500 $50 lease on a brand new Ford Toyota, and it's like this is so annoying like can we not do this at this? like everybody's trying to like say that they're there for us and I'm like, I don't need a brand to be there for me right?
28:29
What if What have you learnt about your relationship with not being sort of at home all the time together?
28:37
Bro? Oh, first two weeks were like they were actually like legit like legitimately. We fought so much we fought every day for a week straight to the point where like, like just woke up exhausted. Just be like, Can we just not fight from one?
28:52
And I think it's because we want that's just become
28:55
a bit of this roost, doesn't it? Yeah,
28:57
I raised a white flag. I was like
29:00
You just get a cup of tea with the opponent.
29:03
Yeah, yeah, we played soccer in the middle of our apartment. And it was like, it was good to, to kind of I mean, I think that the the biggest thing that's helped our relationship is communication. So even when we were at a point like this, where we were just fighting every day, we were open with each other about how we were feeling. And when we would talk like, you know, when you're working right next to somebody, you might bug them and talk to them when they're in the middle of something important and kind of catch them off their their flow and, and that's not the best way to build a relationship when you're working from home with somebody else. And so we're just honest with each other about how we feel and what we're going through. And I think for us, it was an adjustment period, and it was one a period of like intense anxiety and stress and uncertainty. And so we were both doing our best but still that led us to be to kind of act out towards each others in ways that we normally would Wouldn't. And then it was kind of the, we found something very similar actually, when we first started living together back in Brooklyn, and it was just an adjustment period, it was figuring out how to give each other space because in the past, when we were around each other, we could just hang out with each other all the time when we were dating early on. But then once we were living with each other, we realise Oh, we need to actually make sure we give each other space. And we were not always next to that person. And like when they walk through the door, we don't jump on top of them because they haven't seen a human in three days. And that was made but it was for the most part. I think now we've adjusted and now we're doing much, much better and we've we've gotten the hang of it.
30:36
Dude, I forgotten about that period of time when I first moved in with me where it is you just can be on each other's nerves or just being that close to somebody all the time. Is is really interesting. What's something that you do not match that annoys Nat
30:53
what's
30:56
what do I do that annoys Natalie, I mean
30:58
with the door open that Cuz
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I don't do that. Yeah, yeah, I want to say that I definitely Oh yeah. Okay. Yeah, that Tic Tac. I did a tic tac that was actually Natalie's idea from start to finish. She's been trying to get me on tic Tock for a long time. And that idea was so good that I was like, I just can't i can't not do that. So yeah, there was a definitely took like three or four takes to get that but a tick tock, if you guys want to follow me on Tick Tock. It's at Matthew D. Avella. And there's a video of me on the toilet, but you have to go check it out. See what it's about. What do I do that annoys Nat? Um, dude, she is surprisingly patient with me like it's like, it's funny because like, I thought the other day that she was mad at me cuz she like when I was playing video games she liked just like, she walked up and grabbed her computer and it just looked like she had a face that was like, I was doing something wrong. And I was like, Oh my god, oh my god, what did I do? And then I asked her afterwards, like, Oh, no, like I was just probably thinking about something else. And I was like, it just she's surprisingly Cool when I just play hours and hours of video games and I just do my own thing and I think we respect each other's time she gets most I think pissed at me when I interrupt her when she's in the middle of something like when she's working
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okay Other than that, I think she's she's pretty damn patient I don't know
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your hair line job man mat. That's what
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she said she's, she's sitting right next to me. So
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now, I would tell her to come over here.
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Yeah, the snacks like how aligned Are you with snacks and Bree and I the food thing has been a big issue because it's like we can enable each other we're going to be so now we've just we've dialled in our food to like, six days be healthy, and then just be lenient on one day because we were just blowing out every day. How aligned Are you with your snacks.
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We are completely on opposite ends of the spectrum in terms of snacks which was amazing for us. NATS savoury Mmm, sweet. So that's our personality types as well. So, like chocolate ice cream doughnuts, we actually, we, we did a little bit of a bad thing where we ordered a dozen Krispy Kreme Doughnuts the other night, so good. And I ate nine of those donuts in like two days. And, like, that was easy. I could have easily went through like the full dozen. But um, you know, then we also got Thai food a couple of nights ago, and Nat was the one that just devoured all of those leftovers, and it didn't affect me too much. So I definitely am more under the sweet end of things and like, it definitely helps us because then we don't have to really like compete over who has the food. We don't have to hide food from each other and hide snacks from each other. So, you know, I think that that's probably my favourite thing about our relationship.
33:48
Have you been? Have you been for a draw for you? Are you allowed to drive on the streets of La at the moment?
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Yeah, you know, they're there. They're kind of vague with those kinds of instructions. They don't say like that. You can't drive around. I don't think that there's anything wrong with just taking a drive because you're obviously isolated by yourself and your car. You know, when this first started happening, I would say probably about two weeks ago or so. hiking and beaches were still open. And so we went for a hike one weekend, and it was just packed and like this is nobody was wearing masks at the time. We weren't wearing masks. But again, nobody was social distancing. And it just made it more stressful. And it made you more anxious than if you were to just stay at home. And it just defeated the purpose of us going out. But I do remember like, during that time, even though the hike itself was stressful, the drive there was pleasant. And I think that that's something that you know, we're not going to do it every day. We're not just going to drive around randomly but every few days just to get out even just for a drive i think is nice. Just to get different scenery and not feel like you're cooped up in like roles, how how rules at the moment for you So I have been doing the two day rule, which is I made a video on it a while back, that people seem to resonate with. But it's this idea. And it's one of the the habits slash rules that I've implemented in my life that has had the biggest impact, specifically on my gym habit. So basically, I don't allow myself to skip the gym for two days in a row, because it's just like, it's so much easier when you skip two days in a row to skip a third day, fourth day, fifth day. You want to reduce the amount of time in between these habits. And I find that I'm really I have a really bad memory but I can always remember did I work out yesterday? No, I didn't. Great. That means I work out today. And so the two day rule has been vital for me at this time living at home working from home. As I've started to adapt a new workout routine that works for me the two day rule has really helped me. So like today, I didn't work out but I have for the past three or four days straight. The two day rule allows me to take off multiple days a week. But sometimes, it's you know, it's it's nice not to be too hard on yourself, especially from home because I find myself less inspired. It's easier for me to get up hit, like, when you're going to the gym, all you have to do is get in the car, and then you're like, Okay, great.
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Jim, I'd known that I would have actually
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Yeah, that's it again, it's hard to get out. It's called one rep.
36:33
God pushes. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. It's, have you actually, do you think you mentioned about the sort of not being so hard on yourself? Josh has mentioned to me a bunch of times around sort of some of the rules I've had, which I've also thought you know, not not to be as brutal, which I find that some of these, in order to find the success with the routine, I almost have to have this constant Thought which is a bit brutal myself, which I do see is, I don't know, maybe there is some fine line of leniency towards yourself What have you found for implementing other rules in your life? And have they stuck lock the two day rule?
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Yeah, you know, it's funny cuz like, I hesitate not to say don't be so hard on yourself even though like I like, because I'm hard on myself all the time. And it works, I guess a little bit, you know, like, there's a part of it that works. I think that when you're hard on yourself for too often for too long, then it becomes drudgery and you beat yourself.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, and like, I'm not I don't need to be a navy seal. You know, I'm pretty determined. You know, I'm pretty ambitious but I'm not Jocko. And that's fine. And so I think it's a push pull. It's being hard on yourself when you need to, when you like to just get get off your ass like get to the gym, get a workout, and But then at the same time realising, you know, like I had two weeks when this whole thing started where I didn't work out once and I was fine because I've been through it enough times, I think when you've done it enough times, and when you've built and broken habits and knowing that you'll always get back to it, knowing that you won't let yourself fall into a negative spiral. I think is is key. So I have that that kind of background where I know I'm gonna be okay. But it's definitely a push pull. So, you know, I think if somebody right now, you know, maybe you do need to be on reserve, maybe you don't, it really depends on your circumstance and what you're going through right now, with last year, you talked a lot about the anxiety and the panic attacks that you were having.
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What did you learn from that moment that you're implementing now?
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Alcohol helps a lot.
38:55
You should you should just cut that as a social club right there. You And
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Friday virtual drinks that we do.
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Yeah, I gotta come to that. How does that work? How can I join that?
39:07
So you have a VIP gronk at the daily talk show.com forward slash gronk. You fill out your details and then Mr. 97, we'll send you an email on the day with a zoom link. And we're doing kick ons now as well. And so I'm Jane. Yes, I'm DJing for sort of two hours after the show.
39:26
It's actually perfect. Because it's, it's about 1030 or 10:10pm or 11pm your time. So it's perfect for you to launch at that moment.
39:36
Is it is it Wait, when you do drinks? What time is it?
39:39
It would be in Australian eastern standard time?
39:42
Wow. Okay, so he says that's like 10 or 11 for me?
39:45
I don't know. It's 11 o'clock. Is it?
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11 o'clock. Isn't that weird to think? No. Is that right?
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Yeah. Right now it's seven o'clock for me. So it's
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7pm now?
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Yeah, because we do two shows a day. This is our first movie to the second.
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And then we did another one. But then how does that get to the? The meaning again for him?
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It's this hasn't changed just for us is seven the same,
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not three hours. Now we need to talk on that. That's not right.
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Is
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what so you're saying that? What time 7pm Our time is 11pm his time or what? 4pm Oh, no, no, no, no,
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no. 4pm Our time is 11pm los angeles time. Okay, sure.
40:33
Okay, that sort of makes more sense. The thing is, though, that you'll be up late because the the kick ons won't start until after five. So you're looking at sort of a after midnight sort of arrangement if you can do that.
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Yeah. I don't know if I'm gonna make it to the DJ set, but which is kind of disappointing. Is it like a dance party?
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Yes. Ah, it's absolutely.
40:52
There was. Josh was shaving his Neck Beard during
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the live show. How many DJs don't watch dives.
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I haven't I haven't seen it yet. It might actually have an impact but as like the hair falls down onto the table. Well, I had a pretty impressive
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if anything, do you really your hair is more dialled in than all of us, how's your hair? What's going on?
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I don't know it. I know honestly woke up like this, I'm not even
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know now it's getting long. I mean obviously like a you know, it's kind of growing out over my ears. And so I've been doing a little bit of touching up, you know, one thing that I've been touching up where I'll take like a, you know, my razor, which is just to kind of clean up my unibrow and I literally as like a Harry Italian I get hair growing out of my nose. It's a gross, it's really long, it's and then like up here so I'll clean all that up. So I have a razor for that and but then also use it to just lightly brush my hair and it kind of thins it out a little bit. So because my hair gets really bushy and it's thick, so that's one way that I keep it nice and thin. I just ordered a a trimmer a new trimmer because My old beard trimmer is just complete garbage and it's super dull. So I'm planning on cutting my own hair coming up and I don't know how it's gonna go but I you know, I've got no other options like the thing is like I think there's there's less pressure for people who don't have to be on camera every week in a video. And you guys look better and hats than me so I just I just have to cut my hair
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while we're talking here chat. What would you rather pubes his fingers or fingers as pubes?
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That doesn't make any sense. Like how like, how could you mean like your hand is just a bush of pubes. Your
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army would just be fingers and then your fingers would be almost a paintbrush.
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Yeah, uh, I one thing I just wanted to clarify, I'm well groomed.
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I don't I don't have any pubes. Yeah, that's right. Yep. That's what we wanted you to get.
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How often to trim to sort of take that that level of like absolutely zero Have you got like a What's it called? Like a zero it's a zero
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Yeah, have you Ah yeah, I do I do a generous fade on it goes from zero to a six.
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Is it true that Yeah, fibre basketball is number carved in
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in my on my ass yes
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I do
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a bit of a chat this way we've talked about mono brows your back Hey Josh. Yeah, I Sylvain happening. What about this some challenges like I saw. One that's going around is the handstand t shirt challenge. I just saw someone on my Instagram do it. We put your feet up on the wall doing a handstand top off and then you have to put your T shirt on how much pushback you're giving to these things. Like these channels.
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I think a lot of pushback I think
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Honestly, like it's too much, you know what, there's just too much content. Everybody's doing a live stream. You guys were doing it before, so you're fine. Like, literally, you're a part of the problem. You're like, hey, let's just do two episodes a day. Not enough right now. But like, you go on Instagram now and there's always like, 12 lives going on at the same time. Everybody's got a different challenge. Everybody's challenging me to do push ups. I'm like, guys just get out of my life. Like, give me a second. It gets a you know, no, but at the same time at the same time, it's like cool, yeah, people are making stuff but it's like people it's like people just found out the internet was a thing and then they're like, Oh, you can make videos online. And it's like Khan like just relax for a second
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night. I only found out this year that the the internet, there's a cable running from Australia, over to somewhere else and that is the internet that run through the cable, and sometimes sharks bought it.
44:55
Did you know that part, I knew that there were cables underneath the on the ocean floor did not know that sharks would bite them. And is that why like my internet associate? That's what
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we will blame it on. Yeah, I think halfway through. Yeah. You consider yourself like when when you were in the dating scene? Were you someone who was a good, like good at dating?
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Nah, dude, I was really bad.
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Honestly, like I like I think like I always, I probably like deluded myself into thinking that I was good. I was the guy. They'd be like, no, here's what you need to do. Like I would just give advice all the time, even though I was horrible with women and nobody wants to take me.
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Like what would you suggest someone in the dating scene shave their pubes?
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Yes, no, I think so. I think that's the look right now. I don't think that's going out of style. I don't know. Yeah. Mr. 97.
45:54
Yo, I saw that girl that you were talking with the other day. How's that going, Bryce?
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Yeah, it's going great.
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Yeah. What happens
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that's to chatting facetiming
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Oh, wow, that's that's awesome.
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They chatted for four hours last night.
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What are you serious? Yeah, we just have where she's where she lives. Perth.
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Oh, that's that's a bummer. Why?
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Yeah, it's it's a bit of a trick, isn't it? But it's for now it's fine because she doesn't have any other options.
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blessing, to be honest.
46:32
I put together a bunch of questions that to help with stimulus because I just the concern I have is that 97 is not always that great at coming up with like, once he's got the we give him the idea, very good at running with it and reacting. And so my concern was when I sort of spoke to him casually about his chats with grace. He did he couldn't really mention Unlike what the questions were, he was asking he didn't really have much content, he said, or she was talking a lot and I was listening. So what I did was I created I
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think that's a good that's a good step though. I want to say I feel like he's probably more wise than us.
47:15
Absolutely not. You have to come out. So some of the questions that I came up with for for serves to ask if you had to live anywhere outside of Australia, where would you live? What's your favourite animal? And why beat your pool, pub or club? Do you sleep when travelling on a plane? Where's the furthest you've ever driven? Do you get motion sick? If so, when was at the worst hotel or Airbnb city or country life? If you had to pick a meal for me to eat your favourite restaurant? What would you pick? When was your last boyfriend which was quite controversial on Instagram, people think that you can't ask about dating history. But we'll continue. If you couldn't be a pro athlete. What sport would you pick? If you had to pick a different career? What would you pick winter or summer fashion? You can only have one app on your phone. Which one do you pick? Call nor text, big group catch up or one on one. Do you want to have kids? If so, how many last meal on death row 19 or night out, stay up late or wake up early and red wine or white wine. They were the questions that I gave. Do you want to throw some some questions into the mix?
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I just do I just kind of visualise in my head I imagine Mr. 97 asking all those questions back back without a breath of air.
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What do I do?
48:44
Man I don't know if I'm very good at coming up with questions off the top of my head that's those are all were really solid. What like how did it What inspired you
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to know? I've just I don't know my muse, but just happens, but saves. Did you ask any of the questions?
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So, yeah,
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yeah, we'll see what we ran through. It's so good. I want
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to say that the boyfriend one isn't bad, by the way.
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That was probably my favourite or I can and why?
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Why I just.
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But it's because you get to go into talking about everything else. So I just thought it was an interesting segue into everything.
49:29
I think it's how you approach that question. If you approach it with confidence, not with like jealousy or neediness then you're you're just genuinely curious. And I think it also depends on like, how long I mean, it depends on how you pull it off. But like, generally speaking, you might not want to bring that up the first time you talk to somebody, but then if it's a few hours into like chatting with them, it could bring up some interesting things. It could bring up some baggage that somebody doesn't want to talk about, but that's up to them.
49:58
I remember you telling a story about We'd been out of the dating game Matt for a while and you were anxious and you were in the shower stressing about going on this days. And then you went on it. And it was nothing like you thought it was gonna be how much like for saves the, the stress of it all and the thought of it all being way worse than the reality of the whole thing.
50:23
Yeah, I think that it's you have to go through it. And you have to push yourself through those uncomfortable situations until it becomes natural, and it's not as painful. And so the first date I went on and five years after just you know, avoiding it like, dude, I was gonna say the plague you can say,
50:45
Man, I stopped myself but I had nothing. I had no other word to insert into that. So
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yeah, so I was I just avoiding dating like crazy. And then eventually I He went on a date, you know, for five years and what happened I went on the day, we went out for coffee, and I didn't have a connection with that person. And as nervous as I was leading up to it, as stressful as it was for that, you know, the day or two leading up to the date, when I finally went on the date, I just like this just complete relief. And, and I was so content and proud of myself for overcoming something like that. Again, I was horrible at dating, but it allowed me to get over that. That was definitely like, I think the worst anxiety that I face was just that first one. And then the more and more I did it, the less and less I felt anxious. I still got nervous before every single date. I started to kind of keep more of an open mind where I thought in my head like okay, I'm going out and I'm just trying to meet new people. I'm not trying to find the love of my life. I'm just trying to meet people, maybe make some friends. Maybe a relationship We'll see I'm open to it but who knows? And then you know so I would go on multiple dates a week sometimes sometimes two or three dates a week. Just because that was I found that I would sometimes spin my wheels and talking with people online messaging through these you know, dating apps not feeling like there was a connection there but not ever knowing if I meet them in person because when you meet them in person, it's a different ballgame and people can like have great chat through text but then when you meet up with them in person, you know Oh, yeah, this actually isn't working out at all because they haven't really big forehead.
52:33
I just thought sieves do you actually think that you've got no chat? Oh, bad banter.
52:39
Think that onto on, on text message? Absolutely. But as soon as I saw him in person that has been described FaceTime
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I feel like he's the new in person. Let's be honest.
52:50
So what's wrong with the text chat? What Why don't you have good banter with texting?
52:55
Oh, I mean, I guess it's just a it's a hot thing. I guess when you let your teasing Because you don't get the full context. So this is a real cover cross real full on when you're in personal facetiming or whatever, you can understand this, you know, it's all the content,
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you know, what's a good tip? Yeah. And like On that note, it's like, yeah, it's about you because you it's tough because you have to be like confident, and you have to be able to like, let something sit even if it's awkward without saying JK, JK lol I'm sorry. But I think one one helpful tip with dating, for me has been like, trying to answer every question straightforward, like, answer it with a joke. So like, you know, it's like, how old are you? Like, you could use like, 16 or like my 16th birthday tomorrow, or, you know, like, every time I try to crack a joke or try to like, Don't answer it straightforward, because then that's when the conversation gets kind of boring and stale, where it's just like q&a back and forth, where you want to add like a little bit of lightness and humour. Even if it's not funny. In The sense of like dating it might actually
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work. How did you know? With Nat that things were getting serious? What are some of the signs
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when it was getting serious?
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I, you know, I liked her right off the bat and we had like a really great connection right away. I think the one thing that drew me to Nat was that she just was like a shit talker. She had great banter, she would make fun of me and I would make fun of her and just the flirting. We're talking about our relationship
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that we talked about a village relationship.
54:40
Yes, it was. I mean, it was. I don't want to say love at first sight. But lust at first sight was definitely Yeah,
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definitely. And the joy Yeah,
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the Aussie thing Yeah, the accent Actually, it's funny because Nat told me she was cuz you know, like being in New York being Australian There's not a whole lot of them there. And it's kind of a unique selling point. Hey, like I have a unique accent. And then, but my whole thing was and this is like another dating tip. Again, I'm a guru of dating. But like, try not to like say the obvious. So like, if you're dating somebody, and she's American, she's an American accent. Most people are going to call that out in the first date. But if you don't call that out, if you kind of are, no, you just don't want to be obvious. You want to be original with the conversation that you're having. And so don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do the obvious basically. The other one is, don't mention. I personally didn't you shouldn't mention a girl's looks on the first date. I think that if you're like saying, Oh, yeah, you look really beautiful tonight. Like it shouldn't be about her looks on the first date. The first time that you meet them, it should just be about their brain and just keep all those other thoughts inside your head.
55:56
What's your thoughts on negging
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neg hard now don't you know? Negative?
56:06
Yeah, you you you honestly your breath smells horrible.
56:12
I think negging so I actually Okay, so I've read the game and I've like read dating books and obviously because I wasn't very good so I was like I need professional help. And so when it when it comes to nagging in the context of game theory and dating theory or whatever, it's generally only reserved for women who are like supermodels who get hit on 100 times a day and are just so annoyed with guys hitting on them, that you nag them in a way of saying like, Hey, you want a piece of gum, kind of inferring that they have bad breath, because there are
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to be honest, I would have
56:56
Yeah, yeah, he's terrific. That's because we're not women.
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Women, nobody says that to a hot woman. They don't say like, Hey, would you have a piece of gum? So like you do something like that, that just throws them off and makes them realise, oh, wow, this person doesn't give a shit about my looks when everybody else on the planet does in that context and makes sense in the context of like 99% of the population negging is just mean and it's not going to actually help you.
57:26
God, I'm not even negging when I say to my wife have a piece of chewing gum.
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Yeah, I'm just being straight up.
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Yeah.
57:38
Dave Allah so some questions, if you were to throw just a few into the mix that 97 could ask grace. Can you just quickly
57:46
I think I think saved is literally taking the daily show that we put out, and then using it as like Egypt Banta cards like, Hi guys. See what they're saying? We're gonna answer these now. Yeah, it's a learning unit for him. He's learning is he?
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Yeah.
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I don't want to lean into foot fetish but maybe their
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favourite a fetish. What is that? Did you say biggest pet peeve?
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Pepe knocked out on that.
58:23
Oh yeah, any phobias pet peeve.
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Yeah, that can be any phobias. Hmm, what's your what's your greatest fear? Then also you get them to feel afraid. And then you're the protector
58:38
it's it's it's dating one on one. It's
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actually page 123 from the guy.
58:48
There's a lot of like the Would you rather write like would you rather have pubes as fingers or fingers?
58:56
Have you asked that one? Yes.
59:00
Yeah, she gives you an answer like Matt D Avella. You know, you've gone a little too far.
59:11
Yeah, this is good. I'm just in judo now. Just improvising go. What else?
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I don't know. I feel like this could be boring around the idea of books. But maybe there's something that's a there's something that's that's fun about book. I find that like
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we were doing really good with improv.
59:33
What about let's think about it's, you're speaking to someone who's not in the same state. Could you read them a book?
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Could you read them a
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bedtime story? Oh,
59:45
yeah, you kinda have to think about it as a bit on like a show. Right? And like, if you're talking for extended periods of time, what's gonna help you pass the time? I mean, one, I think, just any kind of virtual game, right? Like, there's what's that new app now? Have you been Use the hotspot on my phone here. Yeah, house party. That's a good one. I'm sure that you guys could play some digital games. You know, that's actually, that's another great tip for dating.
1:00:10
Like the digital game. Yeah,
1:00:12
no, no, but like, I mean, in person dating, it's easier, but there's a lot of pressure. And if you find yourself to be a little bit more introverted, there's a lot of pressure to going on a coffee, or a beer day or just grabbing drinks, because there's, it's just all about the conversation. And if you're nervous, you're going to slip up, you're going to screw up and you're not going to feel as comfortable. So try to find dates where there's some kind of activity that distracts. It gives you conversation to talk about, and so whether it's bowling or throwing darts, or anything in between, like I used to go to this like ping pong place in New York all the time. So like, we would grab a drink, we would chat a little bit and it's like, hey, let's go to the table and play ping pong.
1:00:49
Jesse on the live stream, it says, has said what three things would you take to a deserted island?
1:00:55
That's a good one. What would you answer Dave Allen, what's your answer to that?
1:00:59
As an minimalist
1:01:03
is there? Is there electricity on this island?
1:01:07
Uh, you know, like, okay, let's just say that there is electricity.
1:01:12
Alcohol
1:01:14
No, I don't know dude. That's like a so if you had to have three things right and you're just talking about survival, you'd have to have one of those things to start fire. What is that called? Yeah, get a flattened yet is that two things is flint and steel kind of
1:01:29
we can just get the FDA recognised one thing.
1:01:31
I think it's just a fire pack. All right. Well,
1:01:37
you want to know Josh, need it you need to know ife. Yeah,
1:01:43
yep. All right. You know what?
1:01:44
No. What about and then a budgie smuggler.
1:01:50
A pair of budgie smugglers it well you may or smuggled
1:01:58
smuggled Bhaiji
1:02:00
Yeah, so then you got one autumn leaf if you've smuggled a bad gene, now you've got one.
1:02:05
It's brilliant. I didn't even think about it like that. Okay, what else would you bring?
1:02:14
Maybe like a kettle, a pot. A pot. Really? Okay, I guess I don't know. I haven't watched enough. So
1:02:22
if there's electricity and there's like you can Jesse says one output or one outlet. Well, yeah, that's hard. You can't Could you bring one thing being an adapter?
1:02:34
You have multi box? Yeah, right.
1:02:37
Yeah, sure. Well, is there Wi Fi?
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Yeah, and how good is it or not? Does an Ethernet just like come
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with I think it's like, well, what we're seeing here is that this is a great question because it asks it creates a lot of other questions. Yeah. But no, yeah, like obviously if you could bring a computer like somebody to play games with because like you Talking about just passing the time at that point. You're just waiting for somebody to save you. What do you guys bring?
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What would I bring?
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Yeah, let's not deflect
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I'd bring a an iPhone
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they just ran out of battery.
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Yeah. And the battery No Well I've got the one the one outlet so I would say iPhone a the other two were hard. Water Purifier.
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Flint
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you'd want to top or something right?
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That's it. No, but like,
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you don't need a revival.
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Here's the thing you don't need a one out here Why? Oh, we're not going to Hawaii. This isn't the island we're on.
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You can boil water though.
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I've got this I've got a book you know show you hang on standby. Yeah. I got this sound The other day, the wilderness survival guide. So I'd probably just hang on to that.
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Take that as one of the items.
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Yeah, I could do that. Then I can create my own x tells you exactly how to choose a knife, which is handy. As well as lots of options. developer. Yeah.
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No, go ahead. I'm gonna get some steam going to get into this.
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What are you excited about at the moment? what's what's getting you excited? What are you excited about? For the rest of the week?
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Dude, I just finished succession. Have you guys watched that show?
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No, no.
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Really, really good. I definitely recommend it. Comedy
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was what's the vibe?
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Yeah, it actually is a comedy. It's based off of like the Fox News Empire. And I forget the that main gronk that's like the head of that whole that whole News Network. But um, it's uh, it's super funny. It says Will Ferrell and Adam McKay are the guys who produced it and created the show. So it's it's it's comedic but serious at the same time and it's kind of like empire building. It's like, Yeah, I definitely recommend if anybody's looking for a good show to watch comedy. Where is it?
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It's on HBO. Okay.
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Wonderful. So that's what I'm excited about with life right now.
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Keep it simple, stupid.
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Yeah, no, I'm excited about continuing to find my balance and find out what fulfils me and kind of adjusting to the new normal like you guys were talking about. I found Are you laughing about the smoke that's
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just getting high every day bro. Excited about good
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vibes. Looks like you're about to play laser tag. Like it's got that vibe.
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Yeah, yeah. So laser tag as well. Now, you know, I just get that adjusted. Okay?
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No, I feel I feel good. I'm feeling very content right now. And I'm comfortable with the adjustments we've been making. I mean, I think right now, to be totally honest, you know, I think that the one thing that I think about the most is just like the safety and health of my family and friends. And even though we know that this thing, like, you know, is only going to seriously impact, maybe 1% 2% of the population that likely will have impacts throughout. So just try to like, enjoy as much time and not take for granted what I have. And, you know, just cherish those moments that I do have with my family and friends, because you know, not to be morbid, but you never know. And regardless of this situation, you do never know. So it's one of the reasons why it's great to connect with you guys.
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Thanks, brother.
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It's lovely to see. Thank you. Now you're doing
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I want to do this again I'm gonna have to get like a webcam or something because I just don't feel confident about putting out
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next oh just take us to a ping pong game we can we can you know you warm you up confidence
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look we want to cut you off if there was no smoke no steam we wouldn't have run this it
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looks great it actually got me thinking about Friday virtual drinks I think I might need that for the for the ketones
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recommend it I recommend it It definitely changes the vibe completely
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like you guys are you guys are a smoke machine.
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It's a hazy and like you have to get like a certain kind of haze fluid. I could send you the exact link to the one I got on Amazon
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affiliate link company.
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Listen, it make a small percentage purchase it's not even that much.
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Now but you guys are actually you guys have been killing it. I mean what you've how you've been able to quickly adjust and adapt apps to these circumstances is really impressive and making it easy for people like me to pop on. And even though we had technical difficulties in the beginning, it's been cool to watch you guys kind of adjust and adapt to these situation.
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Thanks my ex mine. It's a daily talk show. If you want to join us for the virtual drinks, you can go to the daily talk show.com forward slash gronk to do that, otherwise, Duval has got his own YouTube channel, which I know you need some more subs.
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Pretty good.
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Yeah, just dated. Tracking has been slow lately.
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Have you tired? What is the traction on YouTube?
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Yeah, it's good. I mean, I think it's no it's good. It's good. It's good. It's like I think I get like, I haven't I don't look at the numbers too much to to move on. I know. However, no, no, when a video is doing bad or it's not bad when it's not doing up to the past. 10 or so videos because a YouTube kind of lets you know like, Hey, you screwed up with that last one. But I think I still get on average like 50 to 70 k new subscribers a month, which is awesome.
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That's amazing. Awesome. That's a dope show. We are streaming live and I am full Pim, what's
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the standard time?
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I just I just love how that's how we end I get about 70,000 subscribers a month.
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Dude, you have something else. What do you want to leave?
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I just wanted a little bit of
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I just wanted a little bit of buffer in between.
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I just want to appear humble.
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This is dating advice. I feel like that would be good.
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One more from me.
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No means no. That's it. No, I
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mean, it's good advice. It's good advice, but yeah, very good. It's sound. It's very good. I was dating.
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Mr. 97. What's one piece of advice that you would give to people that are out there? dating? I'm better asking questions and answering them.
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I think I think there's probably the there's probably the thing to do where you're trying to act cool and just sort of not really lean into your emotions and how much you're enjoying it. And so I think communicating that and just being upfront with that and sort of just not trying to be cool about it, just saying how you feel. How does that align with negging?
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formats advice around don't say the obvious don't answer the question.
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Not what I said. I never answers always lie. And on that night
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is a lot of fun
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that day villa. Thanks for joining us. Nice.
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Thanks so much for having me guys. It was a lot of fun. Let's do it again soon. I know you do a lot of these. We do
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sit down and talk so have a good one. See you guys